How to Open Yourself Up to the Moment

Susan, a meditation student, wrote me this: “When I’m feeling disconnected or lonely or anxious, I do my best to remember to pay attention to details. While paying attention does have a calming effect, I realize that paying attention—exquisite, extraordinary attention—is … Read More

5 Situations in Your Life Where You Can be More Present

It’s not easy being present. Our brains, unlike other animal brains, are made for extensive time travel. We can mentally replay the past so well that we smile with joy, or, as is more often the case, drive ourselves insane … Read More

Are You a People Pleaser? Here’s What You Need to Know

5 Psychologist-Approved Ways to Get It Under Control I was recently coaching a client I’ll call Amanda. Although she hated to admit it, Amanda was the office people pleaser. She was always the first one to volunteer for the activities … Read More

Changing The Messages In Our Heads

Playing old messages in my head makes me sound like a broken record. Negative messages I heard growing up rear their ugly heads when I am facing (mental) stumbling blocks or when I’m on the verge of greatness/accomplishing a goal. … Read More

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7 Ways to Accept Yourself and Feel Good Enough

Below we explore some alternative perspectives and exercises on how you can accept yourself more and feel good enough.   1. Everything doesn’t have to be perfect As we talked before, perfectionism is the curse of Sisyphus because it’s an unattainable standard. … Read More

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Practical Strategies to Manage Stress in the Workplace

Mental health can hold the best of us back, both at work and in life. And with mental health conditions costing organisations and individuals more and more each year, it’s time to tackle psychological well-being head-on. You can start by managing … Read More

Some Days It’s Hard To Be a Positive Person

I’m generally a positive person, but is it hard to be a positive person? I look for the good in each day, make lemons out of lemonade and try to practice what I preach. When negative feelings take over it … Read More

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What Makes Negative Thinking Such a Difficult Habit to Break?

Have you ever caught yourself ruminating about painful, negative thoughts and found that you just aren’t willing to let them go? Or have you been in the company of complainers who, despite your best efforts, simply continue with their self-defeatist … Read More

Sweat So You Don’t Forget: Exercise Breaks Improve Learning

New research from a team of scientists at McMaster University suggests that brief exercise breaks during lectures can help university students focus their attention, retain information and improve overall learning. While the benefits of exercise are well-known for school-aged children, … Read More

The Experts Are Just Like Us

There’s no such thing as a “perfect” marriage or a “perfect” partner. Even Drs. John and Julie Gottman, widely considered the world’s foremost experts on marriage, have to work on their relationship just like the rest of us. Dr. Julie Gottman recently told a story about … Read More