R U OK day: what do you do if someone says ‘no’?

R U OK Day is today, encouraging all of us to check in with others to see if they’re OK. But what if someone says “no”? What should you say or do? Should you tell someone else? What resources can you … Read More

Why We Choose the Mates We Do — and How to Choose The Best Mate for You

Our choice of a long-term romantic partner or mate is one of the most important decisions we make in our lifetimes. Yet sometimes it seems a mystery why we choose who we do. People who on paper should give us … Read More

10 Secrets of Great Relationships

I’ve had the privilege in my 25 years as a couples counselor of working with hundreds of couples. They’ve been old and young, straight and gay, and of various socioeconomic and religious backgrounds. As I have worked with them to … Read More

Some Days It’s Hard To Be a Positive Person

I’m generally a positive person, but is it hard to be a positive person? I look for the good in each day, make lemons out of lemonade and try to practice what I preach. When negative feelings take over it … Read More

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What Makes Negative Thinking Such a Difficult Habit to Break?

Have you ever caught yourself ruminating about painful, negative thoughts and found that you just aren’t willing to let them go? Or have you been in the company of complainers who, despite your best efforts, simply continue with their self-defeatist … Read More

Sweat So You Don’t Forget: Exercise Breaks Improve Learning

New research from a team of scientists at McMaster University suggests that brief exercise breaks during lectures can help university students focus their attention, retain information and improve overall learning. While the benefits of exercise are well-known for school-aged children, … Read More

The Experts Are Just Like Us

There’s no such thing as a “perfect” marriage or a “perfect” partner. Even Drs. John and Julie Gottman, widely considered the world’s foremost experts on marriage, have to work on their relationship just like the rest of us. Dr. Julie Gottman recently told a story about … Read More

The Art of Good Communication: Texting Etiquette

Miscommunication happens often enough face to face. But it happens far more frequently over text messages. Alice was texting back and forth with her boyfriend when suddenly he went silent after a simple question. In the middle of a meeting, … Read More

16 Ways To Free Yourself From Overthinking

The Greek philosopher Socrates once proclaimed that the unexamined life is not worth living, implying that it is only through self-examination that we can create a meaningful existence. While it’s vital to have a sense of our strengths and weaknesses, … Read More

9 Self-Care Tips to Put Your Life Back in Balance

Are you feeling run-down? Are you continually putting the needs of others before your own? Do you feel like your life is out of balance?   If you answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions, consider investing in self-care. Self-care … Read More