How to Navigate Your Negative Emotions Toward a Positive Response

Negative emotions are part of life—yet most of us try to bottle them up or shut them out. We label our emotions and wish them away. We judge ourselves for feeling negative and get caught up in secondary negative emotions as a … Read More

3 Ways to Approach New Opportunities with Excitement Instead of Fear

An opportunity comes up at work. You know it’s what you want. You know you can bring value to your organization. But if you’re like many people, the excitement soon melts into fear. Catastrophic thoughts and images intrude your mental space, … Read More

Five lifestyle changes to enhance your mood and mental health

When someone is diagnosed with a mental health disorder such as depression or anxiety, first line treatments usually include psychological therapies and medication. What’s not always discussed are the changeable lifestyle factors that influence our mental health. Even those who … Read More

Your ROAD-MAP to Strengths Use

When you are exploring your character strengths or attempting to help someone connect more with their own, it is useful to have some guideposts. In other words, everyone needs a “road map” at one point or another, and the phrase “road map” … Read More

3 Steps to Take If Your Work Isn’t Aligned with Your Purpose

Somewhere in midlife (and often before that), people begin to question some of the important aspects of their lives. Some question their romantic relationships. Some realize the importance of looking after their health and vitality. But for the most part, … Read More

6 Easy Exercises for Everyday Mindfulness

We could all use a little help focusing on the present instead of worrying about what the future holds. Here are 6 simple ways to incorporate more mindfulness in your days. Mindful Mornings: Waking Up With Purpose Mornings can be … Read More

The Only 2 Things You Need to Know to Change Negative Behaviors for Good

Why is it that we know what’s good for us—but rarely do it? We know healthy food does our body good. We know the importance of exercise. We know the value of strong relationships. And yet, we can spend countless … Read More

5 Hacks to Create Powerful Habits

So much of our lives are lived on autopilot. We eat, sleep, go to work, attend to house chores, try to fit in some fun or self-care, or simply wind down in front of the television. Then we begin the … Read More

10 Secrets of Great Relationships

I’ve had the privilege in my 25 years as a couples counselor of working with hundreds of couples. They’ve been old and young, straight and gay, and of various socioeconomic and religious backgrounds. As I have worked with them to … Read More

How to Open Yourself Up to the Moment

Susan, a meditation student, wrote me this: “When I’m feeling disconnected or lonely or anxious, I do my best to remember to pay attention to details. While paying attention does have a calming effect, I realize that paying attention—exquisite, extraordinary attention—is … Read More